A carefully drafted separation agreement, Family Court Order, or parenting plan will anticipate most things that will come up in a child's life. But, it is not possible to anticipate everything. Things always change for children and unanticipated things creep up. Judges understand that, even when a judge has spent the time determining what custody order is in a child's best interest. So, where parents can agree that a change to what is set out in a court order, either for once or permanently, is in a child's best interest, then judges understand - unless a children's aid society or the judge's order says that no changes are allowed. In most cases, judges (and children's aid societies) like it when parents can agree to changes to schedules, and other aspects of their children’s lives, in ways that benefit their children.
With judges preferring parents being flexible to meet their children's best interests, the purpose of Parenting Orders, parenting plans or separation agreements is to really to set out what will happen when the parents, unfortunately, cannot agree. When parents cannot agree whether something is in a child's best interest, the "fall back" is what is in the Court Order, parenting plan or separation agreement. Put another way, if the parents do not agree to deviate from the parenting plan, one of them cannot to so without getting a judge to change the Court Order or agreement.
parent asks a judge to change a Parenting Order or agreement, the judge will decide what to do based on
what is in the child's best interest. It is possible that decision is not what one,
or both, parents want. Also, a parent who refused unreasonably
refused to cooperate with the other parent, or denied to make changes without a
good reason, may get in trouble from the judge. That parent may have to
pay the other parent's legal fees. Or, can lose custody of the child if the judge
thinks the parent was trying to harm the child's relationship with the other
It is always best to try to be reasonable and cooperate when it comes to
parenting after separation - even when the other parent is being
process for going back to court can be quite complicated, and involve several
court appearances. Before going to court, it is important for a parent to gather the
what they want is in the child's best interest. All that will not be
worth it for one simple change. And, it is unlikely you will get the
change made or an upcoming weekend. (Note, it is best to get travel consents arranged months in
advance to avoid court delays.) Parents who find that they have a lot
of difficulty cooperating with the other parent and the Court Order or
Parenting Plan does not resolve the issues, may want to consider using a parenting coordinator. That professional can quickly either
assist with, or make, parenting decisions, such as whether a child should
attend a special event on an upcoming weekend. It is important to keep a
child insulated from, or losing out because of, fights between parents.
But, when the other parent is being unreasonable, or causing unnecessary fights or stress, then that parent should see a family lawyer right away to know your options and how best to protect and ensure stability for the child. Contact Certified Specialist in Family Law, John Schuman, by emailing him, calling 416-446-4036, or using the contact form below. We answer all inquiries promptly and we can arrange for you to come in quickly for a consultation (charged at a reduced hourly rate).
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